Overcoming nerves & anxiety

  • Name Overcoming nerves & anxiety
  • Category Public SpeakingWorkshop

Public Speaking
Overcoming Nerves & Anxiety – Workshop

Recent surveys have shown that 95% of people (both business and personal communities) are less than comfortable and confident when speaking. That’s a huge percentage.

The danger is, that if you don’t look comfortable when speaking, the audience will judge you not on your speaking ability, but on your ability to do your job.

The fear of public speaking even has its own name, Glossophobia. Again, many surveys have been undertaken to assess the significance of this fear and it always ranks near the top, if not in the top place itself.

Whilst many will look at these statistics and decide that speaking and presenting is just too painful an experience for them, just image what propelling yourself into that elite top 5% of confident speakers would do for you.

This workshop looks at the underlying reasons why we find speaking to be so stressful and provides a practical tool-kit to help you overcome any nerves and anxiety. In fact, we explore during the workshop how nerves and anxiety can be channelled in a positive and actually make you a much more effective speaker.

This could be the first step on an exciting journey to help you be a great speaker.

We hope that we can assist with your nerves and anxiety, so please contact us using the form shown below for more details.

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Overcoming Nerves & Anxiety

Do you constantly worry about speaking or presenting in front of others, and whether your presentation (regardless of the length, audience or importance) are going to go wrong or right? Do you find your body physically reacting to stress, and do you often have headaches, unexplained bouts of shaking, stomach cramps, heightened heart rate, or any other strange symptoms that only emerge when you’re about to make a big decision, or when you are about to be asked to do something that you don’t like? For some of us, this feeling grips us night and day, and never lets us go. It is the nervous, biting feeling of anxiety slowly eating away at our life. Whilst a physician, psychologist or hypnotherapist may be the ultimate resort to deal with this issue, you might just be able to improve your own circumstances without ever having to see any of these medical professionals.
For many people, anxiety is rooted within the present circumstances. Perhaps you are being forced to give a presentation or give a speech to multiple peers, or maybe your work and stress level is just getting to you, and you’re feeling the brunt of it recently. Oftentimes, you can tackle these issues with something as simple as taking a mental break once in a while. A former client of mine used to simply take an hour out of the day where he would cut himself off from E-mail, smartphones, computers, and all information technology and just read a book. If he was feeling particularly overwhelmed, he would simply wear a night mask, lay down, and breathe. He would focus on his own breath, and listen to his biological signs. It calmed him, and acted as a physical reset button that brought him back to a good state.
Many of us, even the seemingly resilient, steely-nerved, cold-gazed CEOs you see on television, have all experienced abnormal levels of anxiety. While some people never show this to others, a good percentage of the people you admire probably went through it sometime during their life. It is normal to feel fear, but it is not normal to allow fear to overtake your life. Sometimes, I like to look at the worst possible scenario that could happen, and then think of something worse. How bad would it actually be if I lost my job, or if I completely failed to deliver results at a presentation? If you really try and put yourself in that mental situation, it often doesn’t turn out to be as bad as you thought it might be.

What is Causing it?

There are many (often conflicting) theories regarding the causes of anxiety and nervous feelings. It could be deeply rooted in your biology; perhaps your hormones are off-balance, or there is a neurological issue going on that could explain your heightened anxiety. In most cases, anxiety is a result of an external fear being internalized. In the modern world, where we are being constantly barraged by information technology, our work hours are less definite than ever, and our bosses and co-workers are beginning to invade every aspect of our lives at an increasing rate. It’s no wonder that anxiety and stress are sky rocketing.
Specifically regarding speaking and presenting, nerves and anxiety are our inbuilt fight or flight mechanism. It’s your body’s way of putting you on high alert to deal with the impending conflict. Whether you decide to fight (and give the presentation to the enemy, sorry I mean audience) or whether you deicide for flight and hot tail it out of there leaving them somewhat bemused. Whichever way you choose, your body needs to be ready for action and that’s where nerves and anxiety put you.
When considering such a stressful situation (whatever that situation is), it is favourable if not crucial to sit down and really think about your life. If you’re feeling stressed, try and get over this hurdle in order to examine your life with your mental magnifying glass. What is causing the most stress in your life? Where is your anxiety coming from? What do you really fear? Are things really as bad as you think they are? Answering some of these questions will help you establish a foundation for change.
For some people, getting over anxiety is as simple as finding a release valve, or establishing a habit or routine that allows you to de-stress and release all of your excess nerviness. For many, this comes in the form of meditation or mindfulness exercises. In contrast, many people choose to take up a new sport or outdoor activity on the side, in order to hit two birds with one stone by improving their physical health by getting the blood pumping, and also by allowing them to take their anger and anxiety out on the sport. It’s all about experimenting with a wide variety of options to see if any of them work with you.
In the best case, you might be able to conquer your anxiety with force and determination, in the words of the great Clausewitz, a Prussian general who unwittingly defined many terms still used today in modern warfare, and also applied later to business strategy and game theory. If you’re able to conquer your anxiety, literally, by forcing yourself to break out of the psychological holding pattern that is making you feel fear and nervousness unnecessarily, that’s fantastic. As one example of this, one of my clients used to throw himself purposely into situations where he’d be challenged, in order to ensure that his crippling anxiety would never creep back into his life. He used to fear public speaking greatly, until he just walked out on stage and gave a fantastic presentation. He threw caution to the wind and walked out in front of the audience with bold reckless abandon, and he was rewarded for his efforts by expelling his fears with force. Of course, the process of building himself up to that level of brazen courageousness was difficult, but he was able to conquer his fears nonetheless. This is why he continues to do things he’s unfamiliar with or afraid of, in order to beat his anxieties back with force and determination.

It’s All About You

Because anxiety is an internal factor, it’s up to you to tackle it in the best way you know how. You can see doctors and psychologists, and those of you who truly have a neurological issue that causes anxiety can definitely treat your case with medicine, but for the rest of us who are simply fearful because we refuse to take action, we must take initiative on our own in order to change boldly.
Nothing great has ever been done without finding inspiration within oneself, and even if you are surrounded by adverse circumstances, and you feel like you’ll never be able to overcome your nerves and anxiety, I assure you that most of my clients were able to cure themselves of their fears and hone their skills without continued, direct help from me. They had to find their own rhythm after I showed them the path to success, and the majority of the people I have helped were able to reach incredible heights of self-confidence and achieve true self-actualization with the help of their own willpower.
Never underestimate the fact that you are an organism that is pre-disposed to success. Your genetic code drives you towards your goals with a deep, biological urge to spread your information to your progeny, and to overcome obstacles and become a better, stronger person. Think of all of the people who have come before you, who when faced with immensely grim circumstances, persevered and pressed onwards. Not even one hundred years ago, our ancestors lived during times of great conflict where they were constantly under the fear of being bombed into oblivion with terrible weapons and ambitious dictators from foreign lands, where thousands upon thousands of men died every minute fighting on battlefields for causes they didn’t necessarily support beyond their own base survival instinct.
You have more resources than ever to become a great person, and to realize your full potential. It would be a shame if you squandered any opportunity for success because you were afraid of what might happen if you fail. Imagine what you could accomplish if you did not feel fear, or if you were not constantly nervous. As hard as it is to imagine sometimes, if you were completely free of fear, you could accomplish so much more than you have.
Fear holds us back from spreading our ideas boldly, and anxiety keeps us from portraying our ideas powerfully to the people who might care. What if you were able to advance quickly in your career, or in your education, and attain a much higher position or grade? What if you were able to properly convey your ideas to your superiors, and benefit from their guidance, mentorship, and favour? Without great fear pervading every aspect of our lives, we can realize our full potential much more easily.
No one said you had to be outgoing, charismatic, and extroverted in order to properly convey your ideas or curb your anxiety. Many of the world’s greatest minds belonged to introverts, who quietly worked away in their labs and utilized their brilliant brains to create some of the most marvellous technologies mankind has ever witnessed. Defeating your anxiety and your nerves is all about overcoming the fear that prevents you from progressing in life, and from realizing your dreams and seeing your projects to their completion. It is about tackling your objectives and fully developing your talents, and continuing to learn from others while pressing on to a brighter future.

It Takes a Teacher or Coach

It’s true that this process must be internalized, but a good mentor can make the difference between treading the path of success and veering off into the path of mediocrity and failure. Someone who has been through the same things you’ve gone through is certainly the ideal mentor to have, and if they can push you in the right direction and act as a catalyst for your self-improvement, they will provide you with a wealth of knowledge and experience that could dramatically alter your fate.
Even if it takes a little bit of tough love from a coach who is pretty rough on you, if it makes the difference between beating your anxiety and being enslaved by your nervousness, wouldn’t it be worth it? Many times, this is all it takes to be set upon the right path. The modern world lacks for good mentors, or there are so many opportunistic snake oil salesmen looking to sell you a “Get Rich Quick” fix that promises to solve your fundamental problems with a one-time purchase. The only way to truly mentor someone is to continually be there for them during the whole process, overseeing their growth and directing them towards self-driven change.
This is what it takes to be a successful mentor. Sure, it would result in much higher profit margins if someone were to simply sell a four page E-book that promised boldly to solve every issue with your self-confidence and anxiety, but it might not be as effective as receiving continual, one-on-one training from someone who knows how to push you in the right direction and help you realize your own potential for positive change. It takes someone who knows how to coach, and someone who will be involved intimately with the intermediary process of taking lessons and knowledge and translating them into your life and applying them to your situation.

Why We Could Be Right for You

At Be A Great Speaker, we have taken many clients over the years, and I’m happy to say that, without exception, they have been a tremendous success. Whilst we would be lying if we claimed we were able to help everyone, because there are some people out there who simply don’t fit our style, or who don’t really desire to take initiative and be the driving force behind their own self-improvement. If you are looking for a coach who will help you overcome that crippling anxiety that has taken over your professional and personal life, and has prevented you from progressing further in your career, then perhaps we are the right coaches for you.
Learn how people like you are quickly overcoming nerves & anxiety with the help of the best coach in the business. We have helped many clients unlock their inner willpower to become better businessmen, parents, teachers, doctors, students, and a myriad of other professions and lifestyles. Working with you closely to develop a plan of personal development, we will help you realize your dreams and equip you with the tools you need for self-driven success at the art of speech craft, presenting, business networking, and so much more. We very much hope you join us in collectively improving ourselves as professional men and women, and take action in the critical fight for self-confidence and personal ability.